One minute she was here the next she was gone.
I held her hand tight and selfishly pleaded with her not to go - but as I know you will all say - thank goodness the pain is over and she is peaceful now.
We (Bob Redman, Sophie, Andy, Jim and Bob Tarzey) then spent the rest of the night with her at Allington Rd - as I blog she is tucked up in bed with many of her favourite things around her.
So soon the the day will start and events and practicalities will unfurl and sort themselves.
But for just for now all is peaceful and calm at Allington Rd.
We love you Ella Redman - and can't quite begin to imagine the way forward.
RIP Ella ....... It was a privelege..... Uncle Jim xxx
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you all, and as I promised you Jo, I will keep an eye on Jim for you. Jane xx
ReplyDeleteThose precious hours when the 2 of us spent a couple of hours together on saturday night being "normal" will stay with me for ever ! Say "hi" to the angels and granny ella bella ! Xx
ReplyDeleteGoodbye Ella, so much love U Bob (how does your Mum find such beautiful words at a time like this?)
ReplyDeleteLots of love to you all, especially Ella xxxx
ReplyDeleteSimply stunning and graceful.. Sweet dreams Ella
ReplyDeleteLucy xx
Dear Jo Bob Sophie and your dearest Ella ....we are sending so much love to you all from Australia (julie barrie amy tom and scarlett..) i have just read you messages ...so very sadened to read about one of your treasures of life .... never to late to let you know you are in our hearts. Ella we met as a baby ... looks a beautiful young woman. xxx You are indeed a wonderfully strong and beautiful Jo and you will continue to be so for Sophie. Peace and rest for you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxx from Sydney
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts are with you all. I never had the chance to meet Ella but was introduced to the blogs through Bob T. All of the words written by both Ella and her mum were beautiful.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you and your family Jo. Such a beautiful girl, you must be so proud Xx
ReplyDeleteI can't find the right words to express what I want to say, but am sending massive hugs out to all of the Redman and Tarzey's.
ReplyDeleteAlthough working with Ella at the Guild I have come to know her much more through her journey with Cancer and have been blown away by her strength and positive spirit, this must only have been learnt from such a loving family and my thoughts are with you all and that you will continue with that level of strength to pull through these difficult coming times. I am glad Ella is no longer in any pain or exhausted and I imagine her to be having a wonderful time somewhere extremely special that one day we all will have the pleasure of going to as well.
Peace and warmth to you all and to little Brian,
Jude xxxxxxxxx
So Sorry, too soon to go, my thoughts are with you.
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No words...just love. A beautiful Angel. xxxxxx
ReplyDeleteJust turned on the computer: our very special love to you all Redmans, Tarzeys and all or your young friends. Words cannot say what we feel for you all. Anne and Peter xxx
ReplyDeleteI can't find the words except to say that we're sending lots of love to you all. Elena & Si xxx
ReplyDeleteTo all the Redmans and Tarzeys what a sad day for you all. Lots of love Julia, John and Jack
ReplyDeleteElla Bella - such lovely memories of you as a tiny tot. Our love to you and your family always xxxxx
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you all. Such a beautiful girl, surrounded by a such a wonderful loving family. I never met Ella and was introduced to the blogs only this week by Jim, so moving and beautifully written it brought me to tears. The sky is crying for Ella today, rest in peace sweetheart. (Ali Cox) xx
ReplyDeleteMy dear Jo - words feel empty, but you should be so proud - not only of your beautiful Ella who has borne the horrors she has endured these past months with such dignity and courage, but also of yourself for yours. My thoughts and love with you and Sophie, and with your lovely family. Aza xxx
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ReplyDeleteIt's hard to find the right words to say. However Aza mentioned dignity and when I was trying to get the right words in my head that was one of them. You and Ella have all dealt with this as a family with wonderful dignity and courage and generosity to all of us.
They say you can learn from your children and this must be true for you. And along the way you have taught a great deal to all of us ..we have looked at our lives and lifestyles again and realise what really matters..to get off the treadmill and appreciate the important things.
As you said Jo "what a girl".
Anna vW
Our thoughts are with you Jo, and your wonderful family and the friends who new your lovely girl. Linda and Rob
ReplyDeleteWe are so sad at the news and send our thoughts and love to you and your family. Such a needless loss at the beginning of a life. You write beautifully and honestly. John and Alexa.
ReplyDeleteI can't stop thinking about you all. My heart goes out to you. I wish all of you lots of strength and big hugs from friends and family to help you along the way. Special thoughts for you Jo & Bob - proud parents of such a lovely person, Ella. And a massive hug for Sophie.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you. Such a beautiful girl and so brave. Strength and courage to you all.
ReplyDeleteGoodbye Ella Bella, we love you. We cannot imagine our life without you in it but we were so honored & privileged to have you for the past 20 years. Beautiful memories of a beautiful girl. Thinking of you all and sending all our love to everyone at Allington Road. GAJ & E xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
ReplyDeleteWords can not describe ... sweet dreams Ella, you have inspired many and will remain in their hearts forever.
ReplyDeleteLove to all the family xxx
To Jo, Bob and Sophie
ReplyDeleteSo sad to hear the news today Ella was and will always be a beautiful girl who touched so many people with her beauty and bravery. Love to you Jo and Sophie. I am sure all your close friends and family are holding you all close today and for as long as you need to be held. Our thoughts are with you and I am sure from everyone at work today who will remember and never forget such a stunning young women.
Much love
Jayne & Rob xx
I can only begin to imagine your sorrow. I only met Ella a few times but she was an absolutely lovely girl. Her courage and sweetness is a lesson to us all. I hope that one day you will be able to gain strength from her. A friend of mine recently lost her 19 year old nephew Ben to OS - he said that " you play the hand that you are dealt" my goodness - she played it so well. Love to you all xxx
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ReplyDeleteAll my love and thoughts are with you and I hope everyone close to your family are holding you close, then again, I'm sure they are.
To Ella, like I said a while ago, thank you for making me feel that little bit taller. I hope I can be half the woman you are. Thanks Ella xxx
What an amazing girl, she was such an inspirational person. She's been in my thoughts ever since starting to read this blog and will remain to be. Goodnight Ella, may you find peace. Sending love to the family you are in my thoughts xxx
ReplyDeleteSo terribly sad to hear the news this morning. Thinking of you all and Ella with much love. Jess xxx
ReplyDeleteSo very sad and sorry that you have lost your beautiful girl. RIP Ella you touched so many hearts x x Leigh
ReplyDeleteSo so sad for you Jo, Bob, Sophie and all your family, Ella was a truly amazing young lady who will be remembered by all that had the pleasure to meet her. Our thoughts are with you, rest in peace beautiful Ella...with love Simone, Terry & family xx
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ReplyDeleteAll our love and thoughts are with you at this terribly sad time. What a truly amazing beautiful, wonderful and talented girl Ella was who brought only joy to those who were privileged to have met or known her. I am grateful that I was one of those people. She will be in our thoughts for ever more.
Lots of love CJ xxx
Lots of love CJ xx
There are few words which do justice, but please know that our thoughts are very much with you all.
ReplyDeleteA very special girl who even chose a special day to make her departure...21.11.12 - a palindrome no less!!
Lots of love Dominique xxx
My thoughts are with you all. Sleep peacefully Ella. Maxine. xx
ReplyDeleteJo x my thoughts and love are with you all x Jenna xox
ReplyDeleteThoughts and prayers for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteI can't find the words, just all our love to you all, Clare xxx
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ReplyDeleteAll my love and thoughts are with you and your remarkable family. At peace now your beautiful Ella,
Rita xxx
Sometimes the light that burns twice as bright burns half as long. My thoughts are with you all.
ReplyDeleteOur love and thoughts with you all, Chris and Rog White
ReplyDeleteSo young, so beautiful, so wrong...Ella Redman; you may not be brave, but you have every right to be proud.
ReplyDeletesuch an amazing person, cant believe your gone, rip Ella we will miss you xx
ReplyDeleteWe've been following the blog and silently sending our love to you all - never more so than now - lots of love to you Jo, Sophie and Bob - sweet dreams Ella - from Gareth, Kate, Mathilda and George
ReplyDeleteDeepest sympathies, thoughts and prayers are with you all. Rest peacefully Ella, beautiful memories of your cheeky smile. Sending you all our love. Emma & Marco Sbardella xx
ReplyDeleteWhere do you find the right words to say? Thinking of you. Our hearts go out to you. David and Caron
ReplyDeleteShe must have floated away on a cloud of love. You've all done such an incredible job of looking after Ella and given her the very best family life anyone could hope for. She wouldn't have doubted how much you loved her. The way you've told the story - truthfully and gently - is beyond belief. You're all in my prayers xxx
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you all. Ella may only have become part of my life in last three months but she was such a special, beautiful girl, she made quite an impact&we became pretty close. The news of course is devistating, may she rest in peace now though away from all the pain. Andy H xxx
ReplyDeleteI can clearly remember the day Ella came into the world and she shouldn't have had to leave it so soon. You are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeletemuch love
Lucie
Jo, we are so sad to hear that Ella has died, so soon. You and all your family are in our thoughts. Kim xx
ReplyDeleteNo words but all my love Suzy xx
ReplyDeleteCan't imagine what you're all going through but the love & strength you get from your amazing family and friends will help carry you all through at this sad time. Thinking of you and sending you lots of love. Tanya xxxx
ReplyDeleteJo your words are wonderful, how you managed to find such beauty in such sadness is a testimony to your love. Such beauty, love and pride should be published to honor Ella's life and charity's.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you all - Sending love and the wish for wonderful dream's when you sleep x x
Jo, Bob & Sophie, I'm struggling to find adequate words of solace at this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure all your wonderful memories of Ella will swamp the to take.
My thoughts are with you.
Andy W.
Deepest sympathy, thinking of you all Love Jennie xx
ReplyDeleteDear Jo, Bob and Sophie, our love and thoughts are with you and Ella. I wish I'd thanked Ella in person for being such a wonderful friend to Rosa. Her support, grace, humour and love were more than any friend could wish for.
ReplyDeleteLucy and Roger xx
To Ella's family
ReplyDeleteJust a little note to let you know that Ella was always the kind of girl i wished i could be.
She was beautiful, a timeless beauty. Totally unaware on how truly gorgeous, she was! Which made her ever more graceful.
Smart and modest, wise beyond her years and had had such a warm-hearted nature. I never heard her join in with cruel gossip, not once! She will always be in my thoughts and be my inspiration to be the best person i can be.
It was a pleasure to have known such a rare flower.
xxx
We missed the news until today.
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Our deepest sympathy to you and all your family.
Clare and I have been moved and deeply touched by your openness and love that we have witnessed through your blog. We are digging out some photos of Ella when she was a brilliant fashion model for Clare
You are in our hearts
love
Clare and John
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Jo, Bob and Soph. Just read the news and I am so very sorry.
ReplyDeleteI will always remember Ella from her primary school days where she stood out in the playground simply because she was so beautiful - a very natural beauty from a very young age - a rare thing.
More recently we would sometimes pass in the mornings, Ella on her way to school, me on my way to work and she would pause, take her headphones out of her ears and we would share a few words before we carried on with our days.
My heart goes out to all of you. Love Jules xxx
Jo, Bob and Sophie,
ReplyDeleteI'll always remember all the great times spent with Ella through the years at Primary school. Sleepovers, dance routines to Steps and S-Club 7 and trips to David Lloyds.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family,
Ella will be truly missed.
All my Love,
Pascale Treloar
Jo, Bob, Spohie,
ReplyDeleteSo many memories of our beautiful girls together, especially a weekend trip to Polzeath with them climbing over the rocks and heading into Padstow on the ferry. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at the difficult time. All my love,
Liz Treloar xxx
Jo, Bob and Sophie,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Ella sounds like she was a truly remarkable young woman.I have very happy memories of my English Christmas spent with you and the girls - walking with them up Brandon Hill to the Park - splashing in puddles-feeding the hedgehog cat food in the back yard - the cold and the wonderful hospitality of a English Christmas breakfast round your kitchen table Jo. Although I only knew Ella as a young girl I have happy memories of my time spent in her company- She had such a bright and bubbly personality. All my love to you all.
Liz Emma's mum Ballarat Australia.
So sad to hear your devastating news - the dignity and courage you've all shown should be an example to everyone. Keep strong - my thoughts are with you. Dickie L
ReplyDeleteWords fail me, but my heart and thoughts are with you dearest Jo, the lovely Bob, adorable gorgeous Sophie and of course Ella, the beautiful young woman who will be the brightest star shining in the sky.
ReplyDeleteAnna xxx
Jo, Bob & Sophie,
ReplyDeleteWords fail me, I have just heard your terribly sad news via Gaynor's lovely message and photo on Facebook.
I have been directed to you blog and had no idea what you and the family have been trough this past 18 months.
I have had a cry and just wanted to let you know, you are in my thoughts and hope Thursday is as beautiful as the lovely Ella. Keep strong and take each day one step at a time.
All our love Carolyn, Pre and girls xxxx
I met Ella on Art Foundation. She befriended everyone there, was always so lovely and no one ever had a bad word to say about her. She was absolutely stunning, and I know all the girls were very jealous! We spent the day together in Brighton to do the Interior Architecture interview, where I also met you Jo. Hearing this news has been the most awful, shocking thing. However reading her posts just shows how brilliant a person she was. You must be so proud of her. She will be hugely missed. And I send my love to you all. Good luck Ella, I hope to see you again xx Sophie xx
ReplyDeleteSuch lovely wonderful messages, they all help a bit - thank you . I read them over and over again - drinking in all the words :)
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