....is about where we are at.
I know and can feel that you are thinking about us all the time - and want to know how we are. So now you know - we are "bumping around".
Bumping into -
- very, very, very gradually finding a new normal rhythm - including back to school and back to work
- markers - "it was two weeks ago Ella died, a week ago since the funeral"...
- gently thinking about the week ahead, and just possibly the next ..... and Christmas..
- Brian and Fizz in the oddest places - who have both now thrown in the towel and really don't understand what has happened and for cats seem quite discombobulated!
- into people who still don't know, and having to tell them, which is simply awful - "Hi Jo, how are the girls"? - Just what do you say?
- memories - thank goodness. These include reliving the past few weeks events - and much further back. Looking for them, finding them and holding them
- the ongoing flowing of messages from so many people - simply wonderful
- finding the balance between being busy and not busy, with people and not with people, asleep and not asleep
- the reality, that life has changed for ever, and time must be taken to allow all the above and more to happen.
I find myself listening carefully to hear what Ella would be saying, and listening carefully to what Sophie is saying and not saying.
(It's an old adage - two ears, one mouth - use them in that proportion Jo)
"Two ears, one mouth - use them in that proportion" it might be an old adage, but I had never heard it! Then again it sums up classic sales training - love Rob
ReplyDeleteWhat a brilliant adage...think that I am guilty of getting that wrong on many occassions...will try to remember.
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Discombobulated is a brilliant word (and yes I had to copy and paste it from your post so I spelt it right!). And I had never heard of the 'two ears, one mouth' proprtion before, but think it is a very good adage that I will try to remember myself. Much love xxx
ReplyDeleteHi Jo, you will remeber me as Kate Benson from many many years ago at Austravel in Trenchard St. I remeber you going on maternity leave. I am so so sorry for your loss, I cant even imagine what you must be going through. I have 2 kids now and am living in New Zealand. My son is Ollie (9) and my daughter is Ella (12). As I read some of your amazing blog many feelings are felt and mostly the need to hug my Ella a little tighter today and remind myslef how lucky I am to have them both. We also call her Ella Bella too so when it read that it brought more tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing, my thoughts are with you, take one day even one minute at a time. x Kate
ReplyDeleteHi girls bumping around definitely helps describe how i am feeling too have been searching for a way to explain the swinging from up to down and everything in between and thats just perfect - ella bella is constantly in my thoughts - sending all my love as ever suzy xxx
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